I assume we all have been to that phase atleast once in our lives … where we don’t know what to do or even think ..this is the moment when our life changes from full to nil and in this particular moment we realise the bitter truth ..”what we are left with?” …. deliberately we start losing faith in everything that is around us, in our relationships and at last in ourselves and believe me “IDENTITY CRISIS”is just a part of it … Indeed it is the most crucial phase and a really hard point to get back to optimistic approach.. this is the time we feel TRAPPED and CHAINED !
i have been through these and even worse bt the only thing that kept my life going was a decision that we have to make a choice here .. “To CHANGE or to be CHANGED ” .. i prefer the former , why should i let any external factor decide on my part.. my survival through such situation can never be by giving up .. i refuse to quit and i refuse to surrender.. come on ! There has to be some other way to get over this situation.. all windows can’t be closed at the same time …we have to find the correct path which will lead to that one window which is wide open fr us too flee from these delusions……… we have to find that ONE WINDOW
in my struggle I encountered few demons of mine SELF LOATHING , INSECURITIES, SOLITUDE and PESSIMISM to name a few … while all of them seem friendly to me in a glance and very comforting in every way since it was like an escapade Bt they do more harm than good … they ate up my life essence like a parasite … after going through everything I decided to give myself a last big shot and did analysed everything and every detail .. went through the voids and let the logic be the judge .. in a short span I started to feel what has to be troubleshooted and how it has to be done . Every one is different so will be their journey and problems so I don’t hv any universal solution Bt I can suggest those few steps which can give a clear picture and thus help troubleshoot and thwart those ugly downfalls
First step of which same is to admire, love and pamper your needs, qualities and acknowledge yourself .. it might sound simple Bt it is as difficult as easy it seems ….i must admit being a piscean woman it was hard for me to get over self pity n swim upward ..in direction opposite to the current..i was a lone confined shell person and extreme introvert that made my situation even worse..Bt once I was done with negative I boosted myself to my very best and the luminating life essence I have today was worth the fight !
Second is to focus on what is important and to overcome overthinking… if you are a loner it will be the greatest challenge for you to overcome overthinking since it is very addictive … although it is very easy to train your subconscious to avoid it … be OCCUPIED.. a preoccupied mind doesn’t allowed the trash to be processed… for doing so try to give your mind subtle hints and try to be more curious … focus on knowledge rather than just fantasising…
Third is to have the WILLINGNESS to succeed and COURAGE to push your boundaries Bt as a controller not as a slave … it might sound strange at first but it is simple once the idea is understood.. we all tend to isolate and avoid any activity or act involving people and if we do we do it just for the sake of doing it .. here we have to understand that natural is always comforting while fake is not… love is like a boomerang whether u love as a lover or even to a homeless child it will sure find its way back to you so be fearless and love fiercely first to yourself and than to others.. it is always a win win situation!
at times it is possible that Things might not get right or turn around as you please and this is what how life works but one can always illuminate against the odds and all these hurdles when overcome become soul food and insure a better person inside and out !!!
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